I have wanted to say my piece about gay marriage for a long time now. I have gone to post on Facebook or reply to ignorant comments a thousand times but refrained because something this important needs to be spoken about with a level head not steam coming out of ones ears.
Obviously, I agree with making marriage legal to EVERYONE. There really doesn’t need to be any differentiation between gay or heterosexual marriage, its just a piece of paper between two people that are promising to love each other forever. It should be that simple, it is that simple, and yet here we are.
I am a practising Catholic. I pray, attend church, send my children to a Catholic School and face challenging times with God in my mind and heart. I do not read the bible but did as a child and am certainly familiar with its teachings. The bible is roughly 3500 years old, I’d call that outdated. There are things contained in the Bible that despite being a Christian I neither believe or believe in. For example I do not believe Noah lived until he was 950 years old, even in dog years that shit doesn’t sound legit. I also don’t believe that if you work on the Sabbath you should be stoned to death. Sorry babe, no food prep today, there is an angry mob outside ready to stone me to death if I so much as chop a carrot. The homophobic among us will say that God condemns a male having sex with another male but guess what, he also condemns the sexually immoral and adulterers, and God knows there are millions of both! Guarantee you, old Harry homophobe had enough pre maritial sex to make Jenna Jameson blush, and for the sexually moral of you reading this, she is a super famous pornstar…gasp! The Bible harps on about adultery and sexual morality far, far more than homosexuality! The New Testament, the part of the Bible with the stories about Jesus, says very little about marriage at all. It does say that “he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’” (Matt 19:4-5). I don’t see anywhere in that statement the condemnation of a man loving a man or a woman loving a woman? It condemns divorce and adultery vehemently which us straight have no problem with according to statistics.
So Macklemore hit the nail on the head when he said, “We paraphrase a book written 3500 years ago…” because we can’t find anything to back up our ignorance in a book that most of us have never read and do not even come close to living by.
Being gay, bisexual or transgender is not a choice. It is predetermined before birth. It is not a nature vs nurture debate. Who would choose a life where you’re hated and treated as an inferior human being. Where coming out to family and friends is so terrifying that for some, it is easier to die than face it. Where living a life never being able to be who you truly are is the only option. Fuck that. Fuck all of that.
Imagine if you would that the government decided that everyone born in the month of January were not allowed to marry the person they love. That they were not able to be listed as their partners next of kin. That their love and commitment would in no way be recognised legally. The people born in January had no choice whatsoever in when they were born. Just as Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and Transgender had no choice in being born that way and yet we punish them for it nonetheless.
Since the world began there has been people persecuted for not being the same as the people doing the persecuting. Egyptians and the Christians, Hitler and the Jews, Catholics and the Protestants, Muslims and the Christians and I am sure I have missed many more. We look back on that part our history as humans with disgust and horror and yet aren’t we doing the same thing to the LGBT community? According to google, Christians are the most persecuted people in history and yet we seem to have forgotten that and some of us have taken on the role of Persecutor with such vigour that a simple post on Facebook can end in abuse, harassment and even death threats. That a night out as a gay man ends in being tortured, beaten and left for dead. I googled “man killed for being gay” and google found 7,770,000 results. I wanted to cry. We all should want to cry at that.
I said earlier that is should be as simple as two people loving each and deciding to get married. We can make it that simple, because unlike the LGBT community, WE have a CHOICE. We have a choice to choose love. We have choice to make sure that a gay couple has the same rights as a straight couple, that a gay partner can enter a hospital room and hold the person they love in their arms in their hour of need. A choice that gives gay couples that piece of paper that so many of us take for granted and will never fully appreciate unless it is taken away from us. So, my friends, I beg of you, choose love because WE can’t go wrong with love.